Toward the middle of your pregnancy you start to feel amazing. This energy inspires you to do, do, do. In this energized state we want to get things done and often feel that we can do them better, quicker, and more satisfyingly ourselves. Although that may be true, this is the time to practice receiving.
Receiving is the art of allowing others to do for you, accepting the care and attention of others, and comfort in being cared for by another. Mastering this art now will make the last trimester and postnatal life so much easier and less stressful. Perfecting the art of receiving will provide space to nurture yourself and baby making you both healthier..
Allowing another to help you requires strength and a deep appreciation for yourself. (If you feel like you have neither, fake it - it will come.) Strength to let go of the need to prove yourself. Strength to open yourself to another. My daughter likes to say, “In conscious vulnerability, there is intimacy.” Choosing to allow others to do for you strengthens the bond you have with them.
Abandon the idea that your worth comes from what you do - you are worthy, appreciated, and love because you are - because you BE. You were created by God, God created you specifically. You are not an accident, you were not haphazardly thrown together. You are God’s gift to life. You ARE, therefore you are to be appreciated, loved, and valued - all of us should. Believing this is great, but the action which demonstrates the belief is more profound: being able to receive from others is a deep affirmation of all that you are.
On a practical side, when you receive from others, there is less on your plate and you can spend your energy growing baby and caring for you. On a spiritual side, you greet the world with an open hand and heart. When our hearts are open, we can receive more of the good the Universe has to offer.
Ways to begin to receive:
Get a prenatal massage
Imagine you are a princess, and the massage therapist is giving you your royal massage. Take it in like a queen.
Let it Come
When people open doors, ask to carry something for you, make space for you, give their seat to you - accept it.
Plan a date and allow your partner to choose and do everything for you: your partner will pick out your outfit, decide on a place to go, choose your meal for you. This exercise of giving up control will help you see how much you’ve grown in receiving or how much more you can grow.
Julia Erickson, the founder of Aphrodite Project, is a wellness authority who uses food, meditation, and movement to create extraordinary health and wellness. Julia's practice is focused on helping women thrive and heal from chronic disease. She is also mother of seven.